PAL
In order to help maintain a safe, playful, and responsibly hedonistic playspace (and prevent Wanky McJerkoffs lurking in the shadows), we use a technique called the Pervy Activity Liaison, or PAL system.
Whether you are male, female or other, if you want to come to Kinky Salon these rules apply:
• When you come to Kinky Salon you must bring a PAL with you
• Your PAL can be the same gender, another gender or even a couple. Up to three people can PAL each other.
•You cannot PAL someone you don’t know. You must know them and trust them.
• Your PAL does not have to be a partner or lover. Nor does your PAL have to be an existing member of the Kinky Salon London community.
• Please find a PAL before buying your ticket. We cannot refund tickets just because you didn’t find a PAL or your PAL dropped out. If you absolutely must change your PAL’s name the deadline is strictly 72 hours before the party.
• Do not cruise about on Facebook, our site or other internet social spaces looking for a PAL, and please do not ask our crew to PAL you in.
• You must arrive together and we strongly recommend leaving together
• If either of you violates the code of conduct you will both be held responsible (For more on party etiquette it’s worth reading our How To Be A Playroom Sweetheart guide)
F.A.S.Q.
Frequently Asked Stupid Questions about the PAL system
I am a single guy. Can my PAL be another single guy?
YES! As long as you know and trust them, you can testify to their good character and agree to keep an eye on each other, your PAL can be of any gender.
We are a couple and we have a single friend- can we bring them with us?
YES! Please do!
I am a single girl. Do I really need to bring a PAL?
YES! They can be another girl, a single guy or a couple.
I am a single guy. Am I welcome?
YES! As long as you are respectful, you have read and understand the Charter, you have a PAL who you know and trust with you, and you follow the dress code by turning up in a fabulous outfit, you are welcome.
My lover and I have never been to Kinky Salon London before. Can we PAL each other?
YES! You do not need to have a PAL within the community in order to PAL each other. Up to three people can PAL each other – as long as they vouch for each other then that’s fine.
Can I meet someone online, arrive with them, and then go off and party?
NO! You must know your PAL, be able to testify to their good character, and trust them. To come to the event with someone you don’t know and trust is disrespectful to our community and compromises the safety of the space.
I know someone else who is going to Kinky Salon. If I buy tickets late, can I arrange at the last minute for them to be my PAL?
YES! As long as they have already agreed to be your PAL and can be there to meet you at the door when you arrive.
If I arrive 15 minutes before my PAL can I hang out at the party till they arrive?
YES! But we will ask you to stay in the lobby so that you are there when they arrive to check in.
Can I come with a group of three or more single PALs?
Three is the maximum number of people we allow to PAL one another. Above that you can split into separate groups of two or three to vouch for each other. But of course you are welcome to arrive together.
Why do you recommend we leave together?
The reason you should leave together is that you don’t want to be held responsible for some random person’s late night shenanigans. If you do leave without your PAL we will still hold you responsible for your PAL’s behaviour.
What happens if my PAL misbehaves?
First we will talk to them, and then we will find you and talk to you. If it is serious then they will be banned and you will get a warning. If you are not there, we will contact you after the event. If we can’t make contact with you, neither of you will be welcome back in future.
Will I get kicked out if my PAL misbehaves?
You might. It depends on the situation.
What if I am new in town, single and don’t know anyone?
Since July 2010 Kinky Salon London has started holding social get-togethers. More of these will follow. These may provide you with an opportunity to meet other partygoers in real life as well as offering your services as a volunteer. Please do not ask members of the crew to PAL you if they don’t already know you. Also please do not ask us or other people on the web to match-make you with potential PALs. Meeting people on the internet so you can get in to Kinky Salon can be problematic because you don’t know if you can trust them. You MUST know and trust your PAL in real life in advance.
Why all this fuss around PAL rules?
Please remember that Kinky Salon is run entirely by volunteers in their spare time. We organise Kinky Salon because we love the parties, not because we love admin… So we prefer that you buy your tickets in pairs (or threes) for yourself and your PAL(s) and that you tell us at the time of purchase who they are going to be. Just fill out their details on the ticket-buying form.
